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Parents of teens often focus on whether their teen is prepared for college academically, but it can be easy to overlook non-academic factors that can be a stumbling block to success.
We frequently hear from parents whose children were quite successful in high school courses but are struggling in their first year at college. Why?
A contributing factor could be that the people who made sure the student got up in the morning, had clean clothes, reminded them when assignments were due, and asked if they had studied for that chemistry test, did not go to college with them. These students were well prepared academically to do the work, but challenges with developing a structure for themselves, managing time and tracking assignments all contributed to their downfall.
How can you prevent this from happening to your student?
Think about the various ways you cue, nudge, and gently remind your high school student of their commitments, responsibilities, and deadlines. Also consider their skill level with regard to daily living. Can they prepare a simple meal, use a washing machine, change sheets on a bed and budget their money? Your student may get straight A’s at school but fail miserably in developing a structure for themselves and in taking care of daily responsibilities.
First off, simply take a week and note the type of reminders you are issuing every day.
- Are you reminding the student at night to set an alarm to wake up, charge their phone or get their belongings together for school the next day?
- Are you waking them up in the morning? How many times?
- Are they leaving the house on time for school?
- Do you get texts to bring something to school that has been forgotten?
- Does your student use a planner/calendar to track assignments?
- How many times do you prompt the student to study?
- Does the student independently check their grades online?
- When you check online, are there missing assignments?
- Can they explain their plan to raise poor grades or complete missing assignments?
After a week, if you find that your student is very dependent on you, have a chat with them. Get their view of how they are doing with self-direction and independence. They may think they are quite capable and ready to be on their own tomorrow! Your response will begin with I notice…. “You forgot your computer charger three days last week.” Or, “When I checked online, you had a missing assignment on the last three Fridays in a row.”
Then, with your teen, help them develop a strategy to remember the charger or check assignments online (pick one target). People do better with incentives – finding the incentives that work will be the key. At our house, the ticket out on Friday night was that all assignments were caught up by Friday afternoon. After staying home with Mom and Dad for two Friday nights in a row, our student realized we were serious – no more missing work!
Remember to focus on only one skill at a time. Try not to lecture on all the other areas that need work. These skills must be trained – nagging is not a training method!
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